1.    Don’t use after play as a sexual postmortem. If something was lacking in the lovemaking, that does need to be discussed, do so but in a gentle way and perhaps at a later time.

Afterplay is not a platform for airing sexual grievances.

Don’t obsess on what went “wrong.” Some people buy into the myth of the perfect         sexual relationship and are disappointed if the sex isn’t “best ever” quality every time.

Relax.

There will be a next time.

2.  Express sexual feelings and thoughts you’ve not shared.

What you  enjoy  about  the  sexual  interaction  but  feel  shy  about pointing out during sex.

Encourage your partner to share by creating an atmosphere of warm acceptance and playfulness.

3.Don’t let your problems into bed.

Conflicts that are not sexual often get played out in bed.

When your partner is feeling warm and loving after sex this is not the best time to talk about  the  checkbook.

4. Cuddle and caress for at least five minutes. Fifteen is even better.

5. Say, “I love you.” The words have a special meaning in these

tender moments.  

KINKY